Gabriel and I had a disagreement last night, a fight such as we have not had in a very long time. It was quite acrimonious, with conflicting attitudes and views laid bare, much anger and yelling, and accusations and threats flying back and forth.
I woke up in the wee hours of the morning, my chest wheezing, and could not go back to sleep. In the dark, Gabe stretched his hand and put it on top of mine. I was still too distraught to respond, and so my hand just laid there, cold and unresponsive.
When day came, he sat down next to me and tried to make peace. He explained how he felt and why he was upset over what I had done (this all started over a disclosure of information I made to someone). He apologized for his outburst. He wants to put it behind us.
I am still hurt and concerned by the fight and what it says about us. I usually tend to see Gabe and I as an institution, but today I can't help but retreat to my corner and lick my wounds.
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It says you're human. It says you're normal. It says you're stressed. Relationships are about what you want and what you are willing to put up with to get it.
Relationships are very selfish things by their nature. By understanding this you can recognize that both of you want something. The only question is if you are both willing to help each other get it.
The only question is if you are both willing to help each other get it.
For the most part, we have a good partnership with common goals, and we support and help each other along the way. But there are, as last night, times when it becomes very obvious to me that we are animals of a different nature.
It's also about expectations. The more expectations we had, the more we fought...
Fighting sucks. But, its a very natural and often healthy part of a relationship too.
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