tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post5419853777050398270..comments2024-01-14T06:06:09.220-06:00Comments on Boricua in Texas: UnspeakableUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-91861588832595470382008-05-20T19:58:00.000-05:002008-05-20T19:58:00.000-05:00This is such an awful situation, and must be so, s...This is such an awful situation, and must be so, so difficult for you to know what to do while respecting the young girl's privacy and feelings. I'm trying to place myself in this girl's parents' shoes and consider what I would want done. I would want to know immediately. I think at this point you almost have a moral (maybe legal too?) obligation to act. Would it be appropriate to approach the school counselor with this information, making it clear that you're not accusing anyone just yet, but only responding to what's come to your attention? I'd be careful about going directly to the mother/father first only because you don't have a relationship with them and may not know what their reaction would be. (I'm thinking vigilante justice.) The young girl needs some help and the man who did this to her needs to be held accountable and needs to be stopped--if in fact he has done this. Oh, it's a hard one! And you'll probably never know if you did the right thing, no matter what you do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-28675803859326259512008-05-20T17:05:00.000-05:002008-05-20T17:05:00.000-05:00oh my. Bless her heart for telling Paula. and I a...oh my. Bless her heart for telling Paula. and I am so glad that Paula confided in you. <BR/>I agree that something has to be done. Maybe Paula can convince her to talk to you about it. <BR/>so many kids are worried that their parents will be mad for not telling sooner. In fact some molesters tell the child that if they haven't told anyone about it, it must mean they wanted it. :( it is so sad. <BR/>It is very important to help the child understand that it isn't their fault.<BR/><BR/>Not only does this poor girl need some help. This man needs to be stopped. <BR/><BR/>Hugs Ingrid. what a hard thing.Corey~living and lovinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05719661119360487023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-58022044344186051252008-05-19T20:38:00.000-05:002008-05-19T20:38:00.000-05:00Ingrid, este relato me ha llevado a las lágrimas. ...Ingrid, este relato me ha llevado a las lágrimas. Cada vez que me entero de que un niño es abusado sexualmente siento un asco enorme. Esto es horroroso. Tu nena es admirable y muy madura, ojalá pueda lograr que la amiguita hable. Hay que ayudar a esa niña!!! <BR/><BR/>Un abrazo grande para ambas,<BR/><BR/>EnidAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-64903390170314394052008-05-19T14:55:00.000-05:002008-05-19T14:55:00.000-05:00I think meleah's suggestion is a good one -- to go...I think meleah's suggestion is a good one -- to go with the girl to a counselor or her parents. I think it's a really good sign that this girl decided to open up -- and says something special about your daughter that this girl chose to confide in her -- and something special about your relationship that your daughter came to you.Mary P Jones (MPJ)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10251787926841410344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-91063881996665705982008-05-19T13:45:00.000-05:002008-05-19T13:45:00.000-05:00It is terrible, Meleah. It is a good idea for Pau...It is terrible, Meleah. It is a good idea for Paula to suggest that maybe she can go with her to the school counselor.<BR/><BR/>I am hoping that telling Paula is the first step in this girl's healing process. I hope she either goes to the counselor or opens up to me and lets me contact her mom. We'll see what happens.Boricua in Texashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10408201125366918838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-20201639857015861532008-05-19T13:43:00.000-05:002008-05-19T13:43:00.000-05:00Gracias por compartir tu historia y perspectiva, i...Gracias por compartir tu historia y perspectiva, ilusión Optica. Yo siento que tengo que hacer algo. Le pedí a Paula que le pregunte hoy de nuevo a su amiga si quiere que yo hable con su mamá. Ayer Paula se lo preguntó, y la niña dijo "maybe", así que yo creo que es posible que diga que sí eventualmente.Boricua in Texashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10408201125366918838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-86355262889441315992008-05-19T12:07:00.000-05:002008-05-19T12:07:00.000-05:00Eso que le sucedio a la amiga de tu hija pasa con ...Eso que le sucedio a la amiga de tu hija pasa con mucha frecuencia, a mi me pasó. Uno le tiene miedo a causar problemas entre la familia. En mi caso le tuve miedo a que me regañaran por no decirlo cuando sucedió ya que mi mamá siempre me decía que cualquier cosa que me sucediera se lo podía decir, sentía que la había defraudado. <BR/><BR/>Tienes una hija fabulosa. Espero, por el bien de la niña, que sea lo suficientemente fuerte como para pedir ayuda. Ahora posiblemente le esté afectando, pero una vez que llegue a la adolescencia será peor, deseará morir y posiblemente lo intente. <BR/><BR/>Muy pocas personas conocen todo lo que sufrimos las víctimas de abuso sexual. Pero una vez el daño está hecho lo esencial es buscar ayuda de un psicólogo y contar con el apoyo de los padres. Cuando mis papás se enteraron, hace cerca de dos años y medio, me abrazaron, besaron, lloraron junto a mí y me dijeron que no había sido mi culpa y que me amaban y que siempre podía contar con ellos. Su apoyo fue muy importante para mí.<BR/><BR/>Ojalá y tu hija logre convencerla. Le deseo mucho éxito.Iluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04111606290411103283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-26065471252629365312008-05-19T11:49:00.000-05:002008-05-19T11:49:00.000-05:00Oh My, that is just terrible. And you are definite...Oh My, that is just terrible. And you are definitely in a delicate situation. <BR/><BR/>Maybe your daughter can encourage her friend by telling her that she will go WITH her to tell her parents or the school counselor?<BR/><BR/>Someone has to say something...who knows who that man will hurt next.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com