tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post8646637176963557320..comments2024-01-14T06:06:09.220-06:00Comments on Boricua in Texas: Monday TiradeUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-67464566504582755372008-11-16T17:41:00.000-06:002008-11-16T17:41:00.000-06:00Thanks, Amanda and Helen. Helen, what you describ...Thanks, Amanda and Helen. <BR/><BR/>Helen, what you describe is exactly how I have been feeling. I have missed you. I see that you are blogging again. I need to catch up.Boricua in Texashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10408201125366918838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-44688887364924328172008-11-16T01:10:00.000-06:002008-11-16T01:10:00.000-06:00Hi Ingrid, how have you been. I can totally relat...Hi Ingrid, how have you been. I can totally relate to how you are feeling. I'm wondering, for myself, if I'm going through some sort of pre-menopausal stage. I find myself getting mad at everyone around me all the time and then feeling like total shit after for how I reacted. It's like a weight that stays on you and can't come off. I wish I had some answers. Anyways, wanted to offer my hugs. Keep strong and keep writing.Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11278705484876912232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-7716329345383212492008-11-14T10:21:00.000-06:002008-11-14T10:21:00.000-06:00(((((((((ingrid))))))))))(((((((((ingrid))))))))))Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03293649194823360181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-20982112014401264332008-11-12T06:59:00.000-06:002008-11-12T06:59:00.000-06:00Thanks, Kelly. What you are describing sounds exa...Thanks, Kelly. What you are describing sounds exactly like what I do. Now that my parents are coming to visit I think my anxiety will subside somewhat. <BR/><BR/>I think you will be a great mother. You sound very thoughtful.Boricua in Texashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10408201125366918838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-37904455194461103512008-11-11T22:44:00.000-06:002008-11-11T22:44:00.000-06:00Ingrid, I go through something kind of like that n...Ingrid, I go through something kind of like that now and again, as well. In my case, just one thing too many that I see as a personal failing can send me off on a string of being angry about things that aren't being accomplished, then being angry with myself about getting so down about it that I'm still not getting it taken care of. And that sets off a whole chain of feeling like I must do one thing, then being upset about focusing on that and not something else that needs to be done. I get myself all worked up and stressed, then yell at people I love about not helping me when I'm obviously so stressed. And then I feel bad about yelling at them like that.<BR/><BR/>I've found that taking a couple of days to do something like work in the yard helps. I enjoy working in my yard, so it relaxes my mind, but I also look out over it at the end of a couple of days and feel I've really accomplished something. That gives me the boost I need to feel I can accomplish things all through the week by focusing on what I am doing at the time, not what I should have been doing an hour ago or what I'll need to be doing in another few hours.<BR/><BR/>As for being a good or bad mother? I'm not a mother yet, so I know I can't completely understand a mother's worries. But I have a hard time believing any mother who cares enough to ask herself if there's any way she could be doing better for her children is really a bad mother. At worst, I'd think that's a good mother who just may need to re-prioritize some things. And I can tell you this... I grew up with a father who had no choice many times and had to be at work. (He's a police officer, and that means long hours of paperwork, odd shifts, and working on holidays because crime happens on holidays.) I sometimes wished he'd just say, "I know I spend more time working than I do with you, and I'm sorry. But it doesn't mean I love my job more than you. It means I'm working to give you the best I can, and I sometimes forget to just be here for you. Let me know when you need that." Simply hearing that kind of love and honesty would have made a big difference, and would have made me feel like I mattered as much to his life as he did to mine. I hope I remember to say it to my kids when I do have them.Arcadia Irishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00163489155225065779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-72538155686980091582008-11-11T18:54:00.000-06:002008-11-11T18:54:00.000-06:00Enid and Meleah, thank you very much for the hugs....Enid and Meleah, thank you very much for the hugs. They are very appreciated.<BR/><BR/>I am in a much better mood today. It is amazing how on change can make a world of difference. I have more clarity right now about one of my projects at work, and with that has come a clear goal and direction.Boricua in Texashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10408201125366918838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-19613829493278527962008-11-11T11:23:00.000-06:002008-11-11T11:23:00.000-06:00I can RELATE to Every Single Word in this post. I...I can RELATE to Every Single Word in this post. I know all about the switch, and the 'bad parenting'. I am ever so familiar with the mood swings that come with the switch and subsequent guilt.<BR/><BR/>UNFORTUNATELY I have no advice, or words of wisdom.<BR/><BR/>But I do have LOTS of HUGS.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-49960265387091343152008-11-11T08:49:00.000-06:002008-11-11T08:49:00.000-06:00Ingrid, lamento que estés pasando por esta situaci...Ingrid, lamento que estés pasando por esta situación. Creo que son momentos y así como vienen se van. Tú eres una gran persona, sigue adelante. <BR/><BR/>Me alegra que tu familia venga a visitarte. Eso recargará tus baterías.<BR/><BR/>Muchos abrazos,<BR/><BR/>I. EnidIxiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06896857614362514196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37084648.post-89550299914683303302008-11-10T13:12:00.000-06:002008-11-10T13:12:00.000-06:00Hugs, Ingrid. It's impossible to have all the answ...Hugs, Ingrid. It's impossible to have all the answers all of the time, and it's a shame so many things happened at once this weekend. Can you talk to your work about your workload? It sounds as if they are being unreasonable. I know it goes with the turf, but still. Sorry about Paula's behaviour...I guess she's getting to that age. I feel the same way too about having much too short a fuse and not handling things as well as I should sometimes. Try and cut yourself some slack. If it makes you feel any better, the impression I have always had of you is very much as the confident, calm go-getter that you visualise. I am sure you ARE that person- just a little burnt out right now. ((hugs))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com